#80 Navigating the emotions of ADHD diagnosis and more | Guest Inger Shaye Colzie

In this episode, Eric is joined by Danielle, a fresh graduate as of spring 2021. She has a Masters in Mechanical Engineering and was very recently diagnosed with ADHD. She has learned a lot about herself after receiving her diagnosis, especially after listening to ADHD reWired’s podcast. She felt some imposter syndrome after receiving her diagnosis, but has fully embraced it after learning about the symptoms and how it presents for her. In this coaching conversation, you’ll hear about Danielle’s biggest struggle with feelings of rejection while being a high-achiever, the thoughts that went through her head through the feelings of failure, and shares some of the ways she calms her mind in the midst of racing thoughts. Eric and Danielle also touch on topics of emotional regulation, uncertainty, feeling out of control, and you might even relate to some of the inner dialogue she shares throughout today’s show! Then, hear Eric and Danielle come up with a few ideas that might potentially help with some of the feelings of rejection, distorted thought patterns, and ways to pause when the mind begins to spiral.  In this Episode, you’ll hear Danielle answer some of these questions: How did you make it through your Masters degree without knowing you had ADHD? Being diagnosed with ADHD: Was it a surprise or a relief? What were some of your common struggles going through higher education? Was some of the rejection you felt  possibly driven by perfectionism?  With your new ADHD diagnosis, have old stories started to change, or do they still have a bit of emotional sting to them?  What’s the internal dialogue that’s guiding what you say and do?  Do you internalize or experience any types of feedback that leans even a little bit on the negative side? Is there something you might be able to do that you think you might enjoy that you would definitely “not be good” at?  What if you did something you felt wasn’t your best work?  If there were some patterned thoughts around the things that tend to send you in that spiral, if those patterned thoughts were like headlines, what would those headlines be?  Is there anyone you know, whether work or personally, who can give you regular feedback about something where you could also – at the same time – communicate how you’re rating yourself while you’re getting the feedback?  Is there anything else you think would help you in either handling uncertainty in certain situations, or being able to receive feedback that might be difficult to hear while being regulated? 

Welcome to Refined Leadership ADHD Lens with Credentialed Coach Cathy Rashidian, where we delve into refining leadership skills through the ADHD perspective. In this episode, Coach Cathy builds on foundational strategies from the previous discussion, offering actionable steps to clarify and sustain progress despite ADHD challenges.

Discover the MATTER framework – Milestones, Attitude, Tasks, Team, Evaluation, and Revision – designed to help you create a flexible planning system that accommodates change and unpredictability. Move away from perfectionism and embrace a mastery orientation for continual growth.

Witness how Jennifer, a tech product manager, transformed her approach using this framework and achieved success by focusing on progress over perfection.

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In this episode, Caroline Maguire, Author of “Why will no one play with me”? talks to us about how to read the room, how to really understand what’s going on in social settings.

Those of us with ADHD brain, that fast brain that can think of bazillion thoughts in seconds can get in trouble in social settings and feel awkward, or out of place or even worse it can cause us to lose a job or a business deal.

We might come across as rude because we tend to interrupt too much. Or we can make people feel uncomfortable because we share too much and not to mention if we are in a middle of a story we can exhaust the listener because we have the urge to tell them all the little details of the story and not to mention we may even digress a few times because we thought of other related things to add to the story.

So you get the picture! and I am sure you can relate.

So how the heck do you “work a room”, “Manage a conversation?” and “win friends and influence people?” with an ADHD brain. Well, this episode will address a lot of these topics.

Be sure to listen to the section where Caroline talks about friendships and the stages of friendship at the 24:00 minute mark and further goes into how to be an effective listener “be a social spy”.

Get your pen and paper ready to take notes, the entire episode is full of insight and strategies

About Caroline Maguire, ACCG, PCC, M.Ed.

Caroline founded and facilitates a comprehensive SEL training methodology (#ConnectionMatters) for adults, parents, clinicians and academic professionals on how to develop critical social, emotional and communication skills, in themselves and in others. Caroline’s book Why Will No One Play With Me? is a playbook that includes foolproof scripts on how to communicate – with anyone, in any situation – and how to ensure the message registers with the recipient – no small task! Through her private practice, publications, lectures and workshops, her mission is to vanquish the devastating effects of feeling different and misunderstood.

Caroline has been a resource for many journalists as well as leading ADHD organizations and can be seen in publications such as U.S. News & World Report, Huffington Post, ADDitude, Attention Magazine and WebMD.

Please join her on Facebook, Instagram, Linked In, Twitter, Medium, Pinterest and download her free video “How to Tell a Tighter Story”

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This week, Faigie Kobre joins Eric on the podcast for a discussion on reigniting creativity.  Faigie is a creative coach for people who don’t feel artistic but love art!  She works with people who have creativity scars and think they “aren’t creative” because they can’t draw.  She has a passion for reconnecting people with their inner creativity to bring calm, color, and joy into their lives.   In this conversation, you’ll hear about Eric’s journey with music, why people stop tapping into their creativity, why Faigie is trying to bring art back to everybody who wants to come back to it, and her start as an early childhood educator.  Then, you’ll hear about creativity scars, comparison, perfectionism, the healing and sensory benefits of creativity, and how anyone at any age can tap into their creativity. Get in touch with Faigie, reignite your creativity & take her micro-course at CreativityReignited.com!    Questions/Topics:  [00:01:45] “Everybody is born creative.” – Faigie [00:04:52] “There’s so many ways to do art where you don’t have to know how to draw.” [00:05:19] What was it that drew Faigie to not just creativity and art, but also using creativity and art to connect with others and help other people?  [00:07:26] Faigie gets hooked on mixed-media art and getting people back to their childhoods  [00:08:45] A discussion on play in the realm of creativity and allowing it to flourish  [00:11:33] An intersection between being diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and interest in artwork [00:12:59] What is T.A.B.? (Teaching for Artistic Behavior) [00:13:42] “In schools […] it’s more about how the art makes the teacher look” and being punished for the expression of an idea [00:18:13] What are creativity scars?  [00:20:28] “Comparison is the thief of joy,” learning to create, and enjoying the process [00:21:51] Eric shares his journey with painting and a discussion on cleaning up after an art session  [00:24:08] Using an art journal and how general creativity can help someone combat perfectionism [00:26:01] Faigie shares five mediums of art that have tremendous opportunities for creativity  [00:27:47] Eric asks why art is such an impactful medium for people with ADHD: “How is this helping us?”  [00:34:23] A discussion on getting started when we don’t know where to start [00:38:48] Eric asks, “As an artist with ADHD, how do you know when a piece of work is done?”  [00:40:09] Color schemes and color wheels [00:45:17] Closing thoughts Resources: Book – The Creativity Cure by Carrie Barron and Alton Barron Book – Creative Confidence: Unleashing the Creative Potential Within Us All by Tom Kelly and David Kelly Book – Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families by Charles L. Whitfield Book – Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw Book – The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron Video – Do Schools Kill Creativity? | Sir Ken Robinson Website – Sir Ken Robinson at SirKenRobinson.com   Website – Danny Gregory at DannyGregory.com   Website – Sketchbook School by Danny Gregory at SketchbookSkool.com   Website – CreativeConfidence.com   Article – Johari Window on CommunicationTheory.org Honorable Mentions: “…so many adults feel non-creative because of how they were squashed when they were kids.” “Comparison is the thief of joy.”  “The idea of play is that you’re doing it for no purpose other than the enjoyment of it.”  🌟 Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: ADHD Essentials with Brendan Mahan Hacking Your ADHD with Will Curb ADHD Diversified with MJ Siemens 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired’s award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In this special episode my guest @ADHDCoach_ Talks about his journey with ADHD, he was an Elite Athlete for many years and now coaches elite athletes of the future. He taps into his creative side with modeling and acting.  
In this episode, he talks about his challenges, how he has overcome them by trusting his intuition, towards the end of the talk he shares his message to all of us on how to lean into our ADHD brain, speak up for yourself and don’t let anyone limit you. 
You can follow him on Instagram @adhdcoach_

Coach Cathy on Instagram @proudlyadhd_coachcathy
readysetchoose.com 

In today’s episode, we have Dr. Ian Macnaughton, Ergos Institute of Somatic Education Faculty Member. We explored trauma and ADHD, somatic experiencing, and the importance of small cycles of completion (bonus interactive demo of somatic experiencing at the end 😏).

 

Detailed show notes: 

In today’s episode, we have Dr. Ian Macnaughton, Ergos Institute Faculty Member. We talked about: 

• Trauma and ADHD – key characteristics, how it affects your neurophysiology, and re-regulation. 
• The vagus nerve and its importance – expansion, and contraction, shutdowns, and ramifications of negative experiences.
• Somatic experiencing – the importance of our senses and how developing them move us towards regulating our entire being. 
• Completion – why tiny steps matter more than you think, and how it instills hope and agency in people. 

(and a bonus interactive demo of somatic experience with Dr. Macnaughton!)

For more information on Somatic Experiencing visit https://traumahealing.org/

 

Ian Macnaughton MBA, PhD, FEA, SEP, has been a teacher and practitioner of trauma resolution, mind-body and family systems psychotherapy for 50 years and is a Bodynamic Analyst and trainer.  He has worked with Somatic Experiencing since the early 70’s and is Levine Legacy faculty with the Ergos Institute of Somatic Education.  His practice includes a high percentage of executives, medical practitioners and therapists and others in the helping professions both for psychotherapy and supervision.  He maintains an ongoing training group for clinical practitioners, as well as delivering public workshops for helping professionals. 

Ian also has owned a number of businesses and maintains an active practice working

with business families, families of wealth, and various organizations. He is on the

teaching faculty for, and a Fellow of the International Family Firm Institute and his

clients have included many government ministries and corporations. He is the holder of

the Richard Beckhard Practice Award for contributions in the field of Family Business

Advising.

 

Dr. Macnaughton has taught at numerous universities and colleges, both undergraduate

and graduate levels in psychology and in business. His other publications include, Embodying the Mind and Minding the Body, and Body, Breath and Consciousness: A Somatic Anthology, also “Self, Other, and the System” in Catalyzing the Field.  His other writings on family business have been published in a number of venues as well as his work in Systems Science published in Comprehensive Systems Design: A New Educational Technology: NATO Workshop on Systemic Educational Design.

Contact information: www.transitionpoint.ca, ian@macnaughton.ca