493 | EMDR, BSP, Creativity and ADHD with Rachel Moore

In today’s episode, Eric is joined by Dr. Ali Arena!  Dr. Ali is passionate about social cognition, language processing, executive functioning, and creating meaningful friendships and relationships.  She is both a speech and language pathologist and a board-certified behavior analyst, has a doctorate degree in educational leadership, is becoming a licensed educational psychologist, and uses a neurodiversity- and trauma-informed lens when working with all clients.   Dr. Ali’s doctorate focus was unique, to say the least, as it addresses the dating intricacies of autistics, which led her to develop her private practice for anyone who wants help socially navigating in their workplace or relationships.  Lastly, Dr. Ali feels social support is a biological necessity and wants to help all neurodivergent individuals to reach wholistic communication.  Find out more and get connected with Dr. Ali at Connection-Squared.com Questions/Topics:  [00:01:36] Introducing Dr. Ali  [00:03:26] Eric asks Dr. Ali how she got into focusing on relationships and the dating intricacies of neurodivergent people  [00:05:04] Emptying the dishwasher and other themes in neurodivergent relationships [00:06:40] A discussion on parentification [00:07:53] Ways to bring up difficult conversations with a partner  [00:11:31] Cleaning up 99 percent, not assuming negative meanings, and shame responses [00:18:27] Listening, eye-contact, and different ways of processing while listening [00:22:35] “How do you cope with going out to eat in a noisy restaurant?” and other sensory challenges when communicating [00:24:41] Setting yourself up for talking with your partner  [00:26:02] Communicating via text [00:32:47] A discussion on neurodivergent relationships and sex  [00:36:57] Neurodiversity and the LGBTQ+ community  [00:39:00] Explaining neurodiversity as part of one’s identity in a relationship [00:42:54] The impact of being in a relationship with someone who understands your neurodiversity [00:45:31] Finding support for neurodivergent relationships and how to get in touch with Dr. Ali  [00:46:20] One more question for Dr. Ali & closing thoughts  🌟 Want to hear the bonus questions and answer at the end of this episode? Go to adhdrewired.com/Patreon where you can get an uninterrupted listening experience of this show and bonus content when you become a Patron at $5 a month or more! You can even join Eric every 4th Tuesday of the month for a Patron-only monthly coaching call at $25 a month!  🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired’s award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In this bonus non-stop episode, Eric is joined by fellow ADHD reWired Coaches: Kat Hoyer and Kristin Marts!   You may have heard Kat Hoyer on the podcast before and her journey, first as a coaching group member in season 9 of ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups, to becoming a peer mentor, now an ADHD reWired coach!  Want to know more about Kat?  We have ADHD reWired podcast episodes with Kat listed below!  Then, we have Kristin Marts, who you may have met or heard from in our Live Q&A episodes!  But, if you haven’t heard much about Kristin, then this is the episode you need to hear!  Kristin is involved in musical theater, is a dancer by trade, is a licensed clinical social worker, and a loving mom to special-needs kids.   You’ll also hear about her growth journey as a member of the coaching groups, how she started listening to ADHD reWired, and how being a dancer masked her ADHD.  Finally, you’ll hear about her experiences as a peer mentor of the coaching groups, the power of flexibility, then diving into the role of a coach.   Learn More about ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups at coachingrewired.com! Our 2023 spring season of coaching & accountability groups starts on Thursday, March 30th! ⭐️⭐️⭐️ That’s coachingrewired.com to get your name added to our interest list so you can join us for our final registration event on Monday, March 27th at 10am Pacific / 1pm Eastern!  Can’t make it?  Then keep an eye out for another announcement for an open-house event on Tuesday, March 27th!  Resources & Honorable Mentions: Episodes with Kat Hoyer:  Episode 175: We’re Like-Brained, Not Just Like-Minded Episode 191: What You Might Not KNow about ADHD reWired Coaching Groups Episode 399: Workplace Accommodations: Do I Need to Disclose? Episode 413: From HR to ArC Episode 469: Masterminding Finishing and Creating Processes with Janelle in the Hot Seat (Part 1) – also featuring Kristin! Episode 470: Masterminding Finishing and Creating Processes with Janelle in the Hot Seat (Part 2) – also featuring Kristin! Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: ADHD Essentials with Brendan Mahan Hacking Your ADHD with Will Curb ADHD Diversified with MJ Siemens Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 

  Returning to the podcast is David Greenwood, the author of .  He is also the author of and hosts the ADHD podcast called “Overcoming Distractions.” Learn more about David Greenwood at Find his books Overcoming Burnout and Overcoming Distraction at   Hear David Greenwood previously on ADHD reWired on episode #165 – Hear Eric as a guest on David’s podcast:   Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:05:44] What made David want to write about burnout? [00:07:45] What is burnout?  What are the symptoms/basic signs of burnout?  [00:09:26] What is the line distinguishing between depression and burnout?  [00:10:45] Alleviating stress is not the same thing as alleviating the stressor. What’s the difference? [00:13:40] “Burnout recovery starts with the body.”  [00:20:28] How do we know if we’re in a period of stress vs. actual burnout that needs to be addressed?  [00:24:04] What else can we do, other than exercise, to help with burnout? [00:36:17] Recap of the 6 things to do when you begin to recognize you’re headed to burnout. [00:37:48] Another way to help with burnout is…  [00:40:03] How do drugs/alcohol affect burnout?   6 things to do when you begin to recognize you’re headed to burnout: Talk with someone you trust.  Hit the gym / do something physical & exercise    Sit still.  Try for 30 minutes to start.   Book a weekend away.  Manage your time.  Test your “no” and say no to at least one thing.  Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book:   Bonus Mentions: ADHD reWired episode #404:   Watch and listen to Eric’s interview with one of his past podcast guests, Pasha Marlowe, on Pasha’s Podcast on YouTube: Pasha’s Book:   Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens The Annual International Conference on ADHD is coming soon!  Join virtually or in person in Dallas, Texas!  Then, listeners of ADHD reWired can get 15% off your registration at !  Or use the promo code adhdrewiredadhdcon2022 at checkout!

Adult ADHD diagnosis may feel like a life sentence to some of us but what if we consider it an explanation of our very unique brain neurology. For some, this new piece of information can be a hard pill to swallow and may cause intense emotions, such as grief or the opposite, a sense of relief.  
ADHD Coaching and Therapy are two of the many ways we can manage Adult ADHD. 
In this episode, I speak with my guest Diann Wingert – mindset and productivity coach also a former licensed psychotherapist,  about how therapy can be beneficial and also we cover where coaching can open up new possibilities. 
We cover this topic at a high-level and I encourage you to continue to do your research in gaining a deeper understanding of how Therapy or ADHD Coaching can help you.  If you have any questions, please reach out to either of us. 

About Diann Wingert:
Diann Wingert is a mindset and productivity coach for female entrepreneurs who identify with the traits of ADHD, officially diagnosed or not. During her 20-year career as a licensed psychotherapist, Diann saw many brilliant and ambitious women struggle with unidentified ADHD, including Diann herself.  Since her own mid-life diagnosis, she now mentors women who are “driven but distracted” to overcome procrastination, perfectionism, and people-pleasing so they can craft a life and business they love.
Diann’s website is www.diannwingertcoaching.com and her podcast,   The Driven Woman Podcast can be found on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify, and all popular podcatchers. Connect with her on Social Media Links, Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook Group Diann’s 6 Steps to ADHD Mastery: https://www.diannwingertcoaching.com/6-steps
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Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  Get this episode uninterrupted by ads when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon!  Questions/Topics:  [00:01:06] Welcome & introductions [00:02:44] A listener, who has treatment-resistant depression and asks for tips (other than exercise) to help manage ADHD, moods, and depression [00:13:29] “How are you using ChatGPT and how do you think it is most beneficial to someone with ADHD?” [00:22:14] “Why is it that, with ADHD brains, we can think really fast and great in some situations, but fail in traditional work situations?  If our brains work fast, why do we struggle in the real world?”  [00:28:50] A listener asks about non-prescription nootropics [00:34:43] “What is a good password manager?” [00:36:56] One of the panelists asks for tips to help the transition between seasons easier  [00:44:45] “How should I handle the fact that my ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) – Level 1 diagnosis dismissed my ADHD-combined diagnosis in 2019 as being better explained by autism? Am I ADHD or not? And should I stop by ADHD therapy and focus on Autism therapy, in that it might help indirectly with ADHD?”  [00:50:47] “Is there any research that indicates baseline dopamine levels are negatively impacted, over time, by taking stimulant medication?”  [00:52:44] Closing thoughts 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired’s award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In this episode, I am delighted to be reviewing the book, “Taking Charge of Adult ADHD”, – 2nd edition with author Russell Barkley, PhD.   

This is a must-have book for all adults with ADHD! and a must-listen conversation 

We talked about:

– Latest research in ADHD

– Medication and ADHD – what’s on the horizon

– Emotional dysregulation 

– How to move past the diagnosis and take charge of your ADHD and sooo much more. 

Be sure to order the 2nd edition of Taking Charge of Adult of ADHD 

Additional resources – http://www.russellbarkley.org/factsheets.html

The ADHD Report – http://www.russellbarkley.org/newsletter.html

About Dr. Barkley 

Russell A. Barkley, Ph.D., is a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Virginia Commonwealth University School of Medicine (2016-present).  He is also a retired Professor of Psychiatry and Neurology from the University of Massachusetts Medical Center (1985-2002) and subsequently worked as a Professor of Psychiatry and Health Sciences at the Medical University of South Carolina (2003-2016).  In semi-retirement, he continues to lecture widely and develop continuing education courses for professionals on ADHD and related disorders, as well as consult on research projects, edit The ADHD Report, and write books, reviews, and research articles. He is board-certified in Clinical Psychology (ABPP), Clinical Child and Adolescent Psychology, and Clinical Neuropsychology (ABCN, ABPP).  Dr. Barkley is a clinical scientist, educator, and practitioner who has published 27 books, rating scales, and clinical manuals numbering more than 43 editions, and creator of 7 award-winning professional videos.  He has also published more than 300 scientific articles and book chapters related to the nature, assessment, and treatment of ADHD and related disorders.  He is the founder and Editor of the clinical newsletter, The ADHD Report, now in its 29th year of publication.  Dr. Barkley has presented more than 800 invited lectures in more than 30 countries and appeared on nationally televised shows such as 60 Minutes, the Today Show, Good Morning America, CBS Sunday Morning, CNN, and many others.  He has received numerous awards from professional societies and ADHD organizations for his lifetime achievements, contributions to research and clinical practice, and the dissemination of science.  His website is www.russellbarkley.org.