514 | Introducing The ADHD Creatives Podcast – with Kristin Marts LCSW

I have been wanting to record this episode for many months and today I was so inspired to finally share this with you.  You may want to relisten to this episode a few times as I share a lot in it.  Discover the hidden patterns keeping you from achieving a great business or your highest potential at work Learn how to shift from feelings of frustration, Anxious, Stress and be in a place of Joy, Creativity, and Compassion so that you can have days of ease and flow.  Recognize how to tap into your unlimited potential allowing you to accomplish whatever you set your mind to To access the assessment mentioned at the end of this podcast go to readysetchoose.com and book a discovery call with Coach Cathy. 

When we let go of the outcome and focus on the present we can manage our emotions in difficult times.  In this episode, I talk about how I learned the art of the Pause and why I was not doing it effectively before. 

We all know that when it comes to Relationships/Marriage it is a bumpy ride, now let’s make it even bumpier when one or both partners have ADHD.

My guest Melissa Orlov, a relationship consultant, talks about the impacts of ADHD on Marriage.

She covered some key topics such as:

• ADHD entrepreneurs working with non-ADHD partner, pressures that it creates, and some possible solutions
• How both partners can create opportunities that are win-win for both
• Common themes of ADHD traits that might be misunderstood by a none-ADHD partner
• The high achiever professional who has figured out success at work but has challenges in marriage and how to manage ADHD between Work Life and Family Life.
• Towards the end of this talk, Melissa addresses how an ADHD partner perceives criticism and how to manage big emotions

If you have ADHD and you want your partner to get some insights into your brain, this is the episode you want to share!

About Melissa Orlov:

Founder of ADHDmarriage.com, Melissa Orlov is a marriage consultant, a top expert in how ADHD affects relationships, and an award-winning author: The ADHD Effect on Marriage and The Couple’s Guide to Thriving with ADHD.

Her very popular couples seminar (by phone) has helped many struggling couples turn their relationships around.

She blogs for adhdmarriage.com and Psychology Today and has been interviewed by The New York Times, CNN, Today, US News and World Report, and CBS, among many others.

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This week, Eric is joined by Brittany Berger, the founder of WorkBrighter.co, a digital media company and community that helps disabled, chronically-ill, mentally-ill, and neurodivergent creatives better balance between work, play, and rest, so they can burnout less. She started Work Brighter after 5 years working at a high-stress startup that prioritized hustle, growth, and scaling over health.  As a “multiply-disabled” human, her body eventually had enough of the constant burnout cycle.  Now that Brittany has escaped hustle culture, she spends her time helping others like her to find balance for themselves, advocating for disability justice, and dancing – always dancing!  Find out more at https://workbrighter.co or at Brittany’s Instagram @workbrighter Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:02:18] Eric and Brittany talk about workaholism, overachieving, and burning out.  [00:05:11] Brittany shares her inner dialogue after making the decision to create the life she wanted to transition towards.  [00:06:29] Accepting being not a part of hustle culture.  [00:07:56] Brittany talks about the “why” behind starting WorkBrighter.  [00:10:30] Eric and Brittany talk about exploring autism.  [00:21:38] What is Spoon Theory?  [00:23:54] A discussion on time and energy management.  [00:24:51] “Eat that frog!”  [00:28:27] A conversation about deep work [00:31:10] The importance of thinking of our time as being flexible.   [00:37:47] How did Brittany start to change her life to better suit her needs?  [00:40:59] Brittany shares more strategies she’s put into place to let her Work Brighter. [00:42:14] A discussion on managing email and batching tasks.  [00:49:39] Brittany gives a closing thought. Resources & Honorable Mentions: Article: Article:   Book:   Book:   Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens  

In this episode, Rick Webster returns to the show! Rick has expertise in real-estate, entrepreneurship, and ADHD!  He has managed many domains in the financial and real-estate world, and in the last couple of years, he’s put his focus in helping people with ADHD make better peace and better “cents” of their finances.  As CEO of Rena-Fi, Rick brings perspective, vision, and passion to an area of life he considers foundational: Personal Money Management.  His motto has always been, “It’s not just business; it’s personal.” Eric and Rick share stories about paying the ADHD tax and its larger umbrella, the effects of chronic long-term stress, ways to change self-talk and self-identity to get things done, challenges we may encounter when developing financial habits, the shame we can feel when working on our finances, and forgiving ourselves.  Then, Eric and Rick talk about behavioral finance, why money management isn’t just about willpower, the impact of looking upstream, creating reminders and cues, and saying “no” to improve performance.  Finally, you’ll hear Eric and Rick talk about maintenance costs, other costs of homeownership, planning for upcoming maintenance, and the three primary reasons why the ADHD tax continues to happen. Learn More about Rick Webster at   Other ADHD-tax stories shared on this episode: “I have paid the ADHD tax so many times. I’d love some recommendations on extremely simple/easy budgeting tools.  A lot of budgeting books have too many steps.”  “I always do my taxes at the last possible minute and don’t know if I do them right, and I always owe a lot.”  “Didn’t pay a speeding ticket, license was suspended.  Pulled over again – arrested driving with a suspended license.  Then, I paid much more than the original speeding ticket for a lawyer, speeding tickets, and additional charges for reinstating my license.  “I pay the ADHD tax every day.  Paying late-fees, re-buying things I can’t find, spending impulsively, paying for things I’m not using because I didn’t cancel them or forgot to return them in time, expedited shipping because I didn’t order something on-time, ordering take-out because I wasn’t organized enough to have dinner ready, etc.  How can I be triggered to think things through at an early enough time that I can follow through in a way that lets me avoid the ADHD tax?”  “I’ve paid the ADHD tax on rush-orders. I’ve paid more on expensive repairs to my vehicles/yard equipment/house appliances, instead of the regular preventative maintenance that would’ve prevented the damage in the first place.  I have paid out-of-pocket costs for my meds because my insurance lapsed or I never sent in the reimbursement forms for what would be covered if I do the extra steps.  How do I know what the preventative maintenance tasks are on my big or expensive things (often appliances)? I feel like I “should” do many of them myself.  Would I be paying an ADHD tax by paying people to come do some of these easier tasks for my appliances because they at least know and will at least call me when they are due?” Hear Rick Webster on !  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens  

Earlier this year I sat down with Michael Liss to hear his inspiring story of late in life diagnosis of ADHD at 50.   There is so much compassion and raw honestly in his story.  I encourage you to listen to the entire episode as I am sure many of you will relate to what he shares and will be inspired by how he has moved beyond his ADHD diagnosis. 

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