#81 Creating your own ADHD Playbook | Guest Trey Vives

In this episode, I share a few effective tools to use when it comes to creating dynamic conversations.  Often Professionals with ADHD have many struggles with communication, especially when it comes to waiting for their turn to speak, oversharing, speaking with intense emotions and so on.  I wanted this episode to serve as a mini masterclass in teaching a few tools I have learned along the way in my coaching journey.   

In today’s show, Eric is joined by Dana Crews!  Dana has been a coach, educator, facilitator, and trainer in the behavioral health and mental health field for over 15 years.  She is currently combining her own personal practice, unique life experience, and education in the ancient wisdom traditions together with modern psychology and behavioral and neuroscience research in her newly-created mindfulness ADHD life-coaching business: Second Arrow Life Coaching!  Dana is an advocate for invisible disabilities and neurodivergence.  She believes that knowing and connecting to your core values and practicing basic mindfulness and yogic techniques allows us to transform self-judgment and fear into constructive reflection, insight, compassion, health, and creative solutions. Find Dana on LinkedIn Learn more about Dana at her website secondarrowlifecoaching.com Find Dana on Instagram @secondarrowlifecoaching Questions/Topics:  [00:01:11] Introducing Dana  [00:03:08] What is the difference between satisfaction and contentment?  [00:05:03] Exploring contentedness and its different avenues  [00:06:32] Where is the overlap and what is separate between contentment and gratitude?  [00:11:51] A discussion about the discomfort in familiarity  [00:14:24] Is the struggle of holding onto contentment an issue of emotional self-regulation?   [00:20:00] How much of the struggle around contentment comes from societal ideas of feeling content and ADHD brains needing novelty?  [00:21:40] A discussion on Buddhist psychology and philosophy  [00:23:52] How does one strive through the lens of Buddhist philosophy?  [00:27:27] Not thinking about the future vs. over-planning for the future  [00:29:40] Overidentification, rumination, and separation of self  [00:31:32] How much of being able to experience being content has to do with resilience?   [00:39:40] Dana shares more about growing up, undiagnosed ADHD, travel, and meeting the Dalai Lama  [00:41:58] What is Ayurveda  [00:44:33] How can self-awareness inform our understanding of our experiences?  [00:46:30] A moment of an idea of contentment  [00:48:26] Closing thoughts  🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired’s award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

In this two-part conversation, Eric is joined by ADHD reWired Coaches Kat Hoyer and Kristin Marts!  Janelle Augustin, who is also an ADHD reWired Coaching group Alumni member, also joins all of the ADHD reWired Coaches in the hot seat to figure out action steps to creating and finishing processes.  Not only will you be able to listen in on the process of the Mastermind, you’ll also hear suggestions for managing multiple steps and tasks, reframing “done”, cues to be reminded to return to unfinished projects, and more.  About Janelle:  Janelle was born in Jamaica but grew up in South Florida and joins us in this episode from Tampa!  As a mom who enjoys gardening and has a love for cooking, Janelle is also an entrepreneur with her business called Nelly’s Fried Creamery, specializing in deep-fried ice cream.   Not long after being diagnosed with ADHD at age 32, Janelle joined ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups and continued her support with the Alumni community.  Through the coaching groups, she developed the self-awareness she needed to learn to advocate for herself and learned what she needed for that self-advocacy.  – – – Curious about our coaching groups? Ready to get your ADHD reWired? Go to coachingrewired.com to learn more, to add your name to our interest list, and to find the most up-to-date information about our upcoming seasons of coaching groups!  Questions/Topics in this Episode: [00:01:40] Introducing Janelle [00:04:45] What is a Mastermind?  [00:05:22] Summarizing the ADHD-related issue in the hot-seat  [00:08:10] Overall themes, encountering the “unfinished”, and picking a life domain [00:14:59] Janelle goes in depth about her previous processes of creating manuals and the ideas of “done” [00:17:58] Questions about master lists, time-management, and getting stuck [00:20:43] Suggestions on starting a process and avoiding procrasti-planning [00:23:32] Delegating, and how to find the “who” [00:30:22] Writing manuals, facing resistance, and the stories we tell ourselves [00:32:28] “What if it’s not good enough?” [00:35:27] “I’ve never been a first-draft kind of gal.”  [00:38:65] Janelle spit-fires a round of processes to be created  [00:41:56] “Where do I dump everything and how do I remember to go back to look at it and organize it?” [00:43:36] “It doesn’t have to be boring!” and other ways to create documentation [00:46:14] Managing task lists  Other Coaching Questions from today’s episode:  What is the smallest domino? Meaning, what is the thing you can do first that will help knock down some of the other barriers and hurdles you may be experiencing that may not seem related, but may actually be related?  A project might turn into a system. How do you visualize that before getting started?  Do you have a master list of what you’d like to accomplish, start-to-finish?  How do you manage your time while working on a project? What are other ways to capture information, other than writing? Do you edit while you write? Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens

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When we work with business function leaders to build ADHD literacy, they often want to know how to actually recognize signs of real ADHD versus societal ADHD…so that they can respond with timely, effective strategies or questions.  In this clip, my colleague Sherri Cannon, PCC, and I will share a few facts that can help you better understand ADHD in the workplace.  
 Did you know
 ⇨ Around 8% of the world population has ADHD and has had it since childhood – diagnosed or not. 
 ⇨ In fact, as we get better at diagnosing kids, more and more adults realize they’ve lived life with a brain they didn’t understand and couldn’t explain to others.  
We all can agree that when it comes to inclusion of the mind each person is unique and therefore has a unique set of needs in order to feel engaged and valued in the organization. 
 Without strategic attention to the neurodiversity of their talent, an organization can easily become home to groupthink, petty internal politics and a sleep-inducing culture of apathy.  
Neuroscience breakthroughs of just the past 20 years now enable us to separate fact from fiction and to wisely, compassionately optimize the unique workplace contributions of individuals with ADHD.  #adhd #diversityandinclusion 
Connect with Sherri Cannon: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sherricannon/ 
Connect with Cathy Rashidian: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cathyrashidian/

In this episode, Eric is joined by Alumni member Laura Kane. Laura is a transplant from Boston living with her rescue dog in Delray Beach, Florida. Just prior to the pandemic, Laura discovered a love of nature photography and is incredibly grateful for this gift. Most days, she can be found taking pictures of birds, alligators, and other assorted wildlife. Her top bucket-list item is to go on a safari. Creating structure and sticking with it is a constant struggle for her, but she refuses to give up!  Listen in as Eric and Laura work together to build her daily structure, the why behind the desire to create the structure, and how uncomfortable it can be to accept praise when sharing our joy. You’ll also hear about the significance and impact of accountability, how Laura’s passion gives her purpose, the anxiety of implementation and commitment, and understanding how the all-or-nothing mindset can actually get in the way.  Laura’s Instagram: Where does the narrative of comparing oneself to others, not feeling good enough, stems from? How can you cue the “why” behind the routine?  How easy is it to create back-up plans ahead of time versus in-the-moment? How is exercise helpful? What about online exercise classes? What barriers can get in the way of building habits/derailing our habits? How do you strengthen accountability?  What’s the story behind “having” to ask for help?  What’s the story behind believing we have to do things by ourselves?  How do we get our goals met? How do we structure our day when we’re the only ones depending on the structure?  How has the pandemic affected building habits and routines? Resources & Honorable Mentions:

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!  If you want to join us live on Zoom, go to adhdrewired.com/events to register!  In this episode, Trina from My Lady ADHD joins the panel!  You’ll get answers to your ADHD-related questions about relationships, motivation, satisfaction, and burnout. You’ll also hear about taking care of aging parents, the importance of community, disclosing in the workplace, engaging in self-care, and more!   You’ll also find bonus answers and can listen to this episode ad-free on Patreon when you become a Patron at $5.00 a month or more by going to adhdrewired.com/Patreon! Learn more about Trina at her website MyLadyADHD.com! Resources & Honorable Mentions Book: Still Distracted After All These Years by Kathleen G. Nadeau Book: The ADHD Effect on Marriage by Melissa Orlov Book: Burnout by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMA Website: Inclusively.com Website: The Gottman Institute – A Research-Based Approach to Relationships Mentioned – HALT: Am I Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired?   🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired’s award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!