How to break the pattern of recurring overwhelm so you can move forward

In this episode, I open up about my personal story about seeking support to further manage my ADHD through Trauma Therapy.  I knew that this method of therapy was going to be effective and I have always been a huge advocate of therapy but what I didn’t expect was the rapid results that I experienced.       

“In total, some 20–50% of children with a history of Childhood Trauma have clinical levels of ADHD (Glod and Teicher 1996; McLeer et al.1994).” 

Receiving support for mental health is a journey, from long waits to getting the right doctor to finding the right treatment and medication that will work and also the energy that it takes to keep at it.  But once we do get the right support, magic can happen.  I am beyond grateful to have found the right support team to move through this stage of my life.  If you relate to this post and also to this episode, please don’t give up on your healing journey, keep going! I am cheering for your success. 

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This week, Faigie Kobre joins Eric on the podcast for a discussion on reigniting creativity.  Faigie is a creative coach for people who don’t feel artistic but love art!  She works with people who have creativity scars and think they “aren’t creative” because they can’t draw.  She has a passion for reconnecting people with their inner creativity to bring calm, color, and joy into their lives.   In this conversation, you’ll hear about Eric’s journey with music, why people stop tapping into their creativity, why Faigie is trying to bring art back to everybody who wants to come back to it, and her start as an early childhood educator.  Then, you’ll hear about creativity scars, comparison, perfectionism, the healing and sensory benefits of creativity, and how anyone at any age can tap into their creativity. Get in touch with Faigie, reignite your creativity & take her micro-course at CreativityReignited.com!    Questions/Topics:  [00:01:45] “Everybody is born creative.” – Faigie [00:04:52] “There’s so many ways to do art where you don’t have to know how to draw.” [00:05:19] What was it that drew Faigie to not just creativity and art, but also using creativity and art to connect with others and help other people?  [00:07:26] Faigie gets hooked on mixed-media art and getting people back to their childhoods  [00:08:45] A discussion on play in the realm of creativity and allowing it to flourish  [00:11:33] An intersection between being diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and interest in artwork [00:12:59] What is T.A.B.? (Teaching for Artistic Behavior) [00:13:42] “In schools […] it’s more about how the art makes the teacher look” and being punished for the expression of an idea [00:18:13] What are creativity scars?  [00:20:28] “Comparison is the thief of joy,” learning to create, and enjoying the process [00:21:51] Eric shares his journey with painting and a discussion on cleaning up after an art session  [00:24:08] Using an art journal and how general creativity can help someone combat perfectionism [00:26:01] Faigie shares five mediums of art that have tremendous opportunities for creativity  [00:27:47] Eric asks why art is such an impactful medium for people with ADHD: “How is this helping us?”  [00:34:23] A discussion on getting started when we don’t know where to start [00:38:48] Eric asks, “As an artist with ADHD, how do you know when a piece of work is done?”  [00:40:09] Color schemes and color wheels [00:45:17] Closing thoughts Resources: Book – The Creativity Cure by Carrie Barron and Alton Barron Book – Creative Confidence: Unleashing the Creative Potential Within Us All by Tom Kelly and David Kelly Book – Healing the Child Within: Discovery and Recovery for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families by Charles L. Whitfield Book – Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child by John Bradshaw Book – The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron Video – Do Schools Kill Creativity? | Sir Ken Robinson Website – Sir Ken Robinson at SirKenRobinson.com   Website – Danny Gregory at DannyGregory.com   Website – Sketchbook School by Danny Gregory at SketchbookSkool.com   Website – CreativeConfidence.com   Article – Johari Window on CommunicationTheory.org Honorable Mentions: “…so many adults feel non-creative because of how they were squashed when they were kids.” “Comparison is the thief of joy.”  “The idea of play is that you’re doing it for no purpose other than the enjoyment of it.”  🌟 Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: ADHD Essentials with Brendan Mahan Hacking Your ADHD with Will Curb ADHD Diversified with MJ Siemens 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired’s award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

This week, Eric is joined by Rahti Gorfien of Creative Calling Coaching!  Rahti has coached independent creative professionals, including actors, writers, artists, filmmakers, and tech developers, who are scattered and overwhelmed.  She helps her clients break the cycle of isolation, irregular income, and irregular hours, by taking a more structured and entrepreneurial approach to their careers based on their unique strengths and neurological makeup.  In this episode, you’ll hear about Rahti’s journey with mental health, the impact of teams in her life, and how she started a yoga practice and her interest in cooking.  You’ll also hear about trauma, the 5 success-stopping emotions, being confronted by meaning-making, and wise closing words from Rahti.  Find out more about Rahti at https://creativecallingcoaching.com/ Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:02:04] Rahti talks about how she knew she had to be a performer.  [00:07:26] Rahti shares how her journey into coaching started. “Company is stronger than will, and I realized I was trying to do it alone.” [00:11:03] Eric and Rahti dive into bipolar and mental health. [00:19:13] The 5 core emotions. “Emotions are the harbingers of what we think, of what we believe.” -Rahti  [00:22:50] Rahti shares why she is now grateful for her trauma.   [00:23:57] The Manifesto of the Brave and Brokenhearted – Brene Brown  [00:27:43] Rahti gives a different perspective about being the hero in our lives.  [00:29:21] “Emotions are also wise, and they are also convincing liars.” -Eric  [00:32:29] Where does envy come from in terms of the 5 emotions?  [00:35:41] Thoughts on Enoughness [00:43:42] Eric and Rahti share their experiences with boredom.  [00:45:51] Is boredom the birthplace of creativity?  [00:49:41] Rahti and Eric recap the 5 success-stopping emotions and talk about fear.  [00:57:30] Rahti shares about her book, coming in summer of 2023!  Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: Quick Read:    Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens Registration for the Winter season of ADHD reWired’s Coaching and Accountability Groups is happening now! Go to coachingrewired.com to learn more and get started so you can join us in January 2023! 

In this episode I speak with Tamara Rosier, Ph.D. about her new book, Your Brain’s Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD. 

In Your Brain’s Not Broken, Tamara Rosier, Ph.D., founder of the ADHD Center in West Michigan, shares how those with ADHD can create new thinking habits, identify unhelpful thoughts and emotional patterns, and apply strategies to change them.
“Seeing how the ADHD brain works differently from the neurotypical brain helps us understand, accept, and compensate for our differences,” Rosier writes in the book. “This knowledge that ADHD is a complicated disorder that affects each part of a person’s life is the first step to managing it…so that you don’t have to pretend to others and yourself.”

Readers of this book will finally understand why those with ADHD think, feel, and act the way they do. Dr. Rosier applies her 12 years of coaching others to offer the critical practical tools like solving motivational murders, finding predictable patterns, setting boundaries, managing energy expenditure, understanding the ADHD Ladder of Emotional Health, and more. Anyone with ADHD—as well as anyone who lives with or loves someone with ADHD—will find a compassionate, encouraging guide to living well and with hope in this book.

About Tamara Rosier, Ph.D – is founder of the ADHD Center of West Michigan, where she and her staff work with individuals with ADHD (and their families) to learn strategies and develop new skills to live effectively with ADHD. Dr. Rosier is also the president of the ADHD Coaches Organization. She is a popular conference and keynote speaker is a frequent guest on podcasts and has published numerous articles about living with ADHD. She lives in West Michigan.

In this episode, I talk to JP Holecka, CEO & founder of a Digital Agency in Vancouver Canada.

He shares his story of late in life diagnosed with ADHD while running a successful Digital Agency. Prior to his ADHD diagnosis, he felt so alone and “deficient”, after his diagnosis he felt a huge relief that he is not alone and there are ways to manage his brain. For a while, he took no action about his ADHD diagnosis until he reached a tipping point in his business. He chose to take control of his brain and decided to take action. He reached out to me for coaching and today he shares his transformation.

JP talks about how he tackled his Dyslexia diagnosis in his 20s and saw the benefits of choosing to manage it and decided to choose to learn tools and strategies to manage his ADHD. He shares his experience before and after coaching and the change of his perception around his approach to task, leadership, goals, and focuses on how to make the most of his strengths.

JP is now thriving with his ADHD and is a more inspiring leader to his team.

As you listen to this episode it is important to note that the tools and strategies that JP talks about are his very unique way of managing ADHD. We got there by working together and helping him see his true strengths and how he can use them to make the most of his day.

Through ADHD Coaching, you can come up with your own unique solutions to manage your brain, understand how to use your strengths to achieve your goals, and remove the negative self-talk that holds you back from getting the results you have been striving towards.

More about JP Holecka, Founder and CEO of POWERSHiFTER

JP heads the vision and strategic direction of POWERSHiFTER. For over 30 years, he has been solving design, communications, and digital product challenges for clients such as Energizer, Deloitte, Mattel, TELUS, FitBit, and Western Union.