Overcoming Decision-Making Challenges with ADHD: Insights and Strategies

In today’s episode, we speak with Trey Vives, an entrepreneur in the jewellery and lifestyle industry. Among many topics, we talk about his encounters with suicidal thoughts and how faith saved him, why he views his diagnosis as getting a playbook to his brain, and self-sabotage in pursuit of success.

Detailed show notes:

In today’s episode, we speak with Trey Vives https://www.instagram.com/trey_dhd/ , an entrepreneur in the jewellery and lifestyle space https://www.instagram.com/1881g_/. We talked about: 

• Trey’s journey: how he went from multiple encounters with suicide to owning his jewellery and lifestyle brand.
• How his Afro-Cuban household played a role in his development and acceptance of himself. 
• The ultimate playbook: why he views diagnoses in general as an advantage to the individual.
• Self-sabotage and masking – waning interests, task paralysis, and the art of unmasking.

In this episode, I had a candid conversation with Francesca about her late in life diagnosis of ADHD and her key to staying focused while managing multiple businesses and projects. 
Since she is one busy lady I connected with her via zoom, so pls excuse any background sound that you hear. If I aimed for perfection for every episode I probably would not be doing these weekly.  So in advance, I thank you for taking the time to listen to this episode.  There are some golden nuggets that she shares on time management and staying focused. 

Francesca Anastasi (aka Sabeya) is a business growth strategist, a savvy consultant, and a mentor.
From homeless to CEO, Francesca shares the tools,  principles, and systems she applied as the founder and CEO of Confidance Institute Inc. which made the company successful against the odds,  generating multiple six-figure income in under three years
 
The creator, producer, and host of the Succeed Against the Odds show, she is dedicated to working with and inspiring, entrepreneurs of all ages, which has led to several nominations and awards.  Francesca offers business, personal development, and advancement training programs.  She is also the creator of the one-of-a-kind  Magnificent You women’s conference.  She is also the visionary and founder of the annual, global charity event Shimmy Mob for which she received the ‘Telling Our Story’ Award.  https://www.francescaanastasi.com/  Instagram: @francesca_sabeya_anastasi 

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In today’s show, Eric is joined by Bowie Winnike, a.k.a. Rainbow!  Rainbow is a gender doula and neurodivergent support coach with a background in art, education, activism, and mental health.  They are deeply rooted in the trans community and have a passion for co-imagining deeper levels of communal accessible care. Learn more about Rainbow at RainbowChrysalisCoaching.com In this episode, you’ll hear Eric and Rainbow explore gender, the different intersections of oneself, and coming out!  You’ll also hear them talk about what a gender doula is, unmasking and transitions.  Finally, you’ll also hear about the importance of community, the possibilities through the process, the difference between being accepted vs. being valued for who you are, and more!  Questions/Topics:  [00:01:11] Introducing Rainbow [00:02:58] Rainbow talks about the challenges of feeling like they didn’t fit in  [00:08:44] Addressing discomfort, and being “othered”  [00:10:51] “What if we could just release these expectations?” and a discussion on masking  [00:14:32] Rainbow opens up about living their truth in the midst of fear  [00:22:42] What is a gender doula, and how can they help?   [00:24:46] ADHD, transitions, and identity  [00:29:43] Eric asks Rainbow about living their truth and how it’s affected their neurodivergence  [00:33:56] A transformational artform, being celebrated, and stirring the pot  [00:41:13] Neurodivergence in LGBTQ+ communities and pushing the boundaries of “normal”  [00:48:24] Closing thoughts  Resources & Honorable Mentions Book – Rest is Resistance: A Manifesto by Trisha Hersey Book – Beyond the Gender Binary by Alok Vaid-Menon Essay – Audre Lorde: The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action 🌟 Have you heard about our Adult Study Hall Community? Go to adultstudyhall.com to join our ADHD-friendly body-doubling community! 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on the upcoming season of ADHD reWired’s award-winning Coaching & Accountability groups!

Contrary to what is known about ADHD, individuals with ADHD CAN actually focus! When we are interested and have a clear understanding of the tasks and know that it aligns with our goals we can become focused, even hyper-focused, and do a bang-up job. However, when we find a task boring, challenging to break into chunks, and ultimately the end results too far in the future for us to gain immediate gratification we have a harder time to focus.

In this episode, I spoke with Dr. Sarah Cheyette about focus and ADHD, she shared her view on how tapping into our Athletic Mind Set can help with gaining and sustaining focus. This is a super simple process to follow! Often it is the simple solutions that produce the most results.

About:

Sarah Cheyette, M.D., is a pediatric neurologist who specializes in the diagnosis and treatment of ADHD and Autism. She has a private practice in Palo Alto, CA where she counsels and treats kids, teens, young adults, and adults. She also writes about ADHD on Psychology Today and has authored two books on the subject: Winning with ADHD and ADHD & The Focused Mind, with the goal of helping young people with ADHD learn to become independent, strong, and successful. She brings a powerful professional perspective on the benefits and limitations of ADHD medication, and the many behavioral adaptations people with ADHD must embrace to thrive with their condition. She is a popular author and speaker on many topics including ADHD, Autism, the brain, teens, adults with ADHD and Autism, physician updates, neurology, focus issues, and recommendations. Download her free copy of Move From Unfocused to Focused Thinking

additional resources and ways to connect with Dr. Cheyette:

download Non-Medication Strategies to Manage https://sarahcheyette.com/non-medication-strategies-to-manage-adhd/ Visit: https://sarahcheyette.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-cheyette-9242bb6

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Back in June of 2020, I interviewed Peter Shankman, host of the “Faster than Normal” Podcast and he shared some great insights on how he is managing his fast brain during the pandemic.

I like to apologize in advance for the sound quality which is why I was hesitating to even publish this episode but I really think what Peter shared was important for all of us to listen to and especially now which is almost the end of 2020.

About Peter Shankman:

The New York Times has called Peter Shankman “a rockstar who knows everything about social media and then some.” He is a 5x best-selling author, entrepreneur and corporate keynote speaker, focusing on customer service and the new and emerging customer and neurotypical economy. With three startup launches and exits under his belt, Peter is recognized worldwide for radically new ways of thinking about the customer experience, social media, PR, marketing, advertising, and ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and the new Neurodiverse Economy)

In addition to his passion for helping people and companies find success, some of Peter’s highlights also include:

• Founder of HARO – Help A Reporter Out, which became the standard for thousands of journalists looking for sources prior to being acquired three years after launch

• The ShankMinds Breakthrough Network, an elite, online mastermind of thought leaders, business experts, and change-makers

• Faster than Normal – The Internet’s #1 podcast on ADHD, focusing on the superpowers and gifts of having a “faster than normal brain,” which has helped thousands of people all around the world realize that having a neurodiverse brain is actually a gift, not a curse.

Peter is a worldwide influencer and/or spokesperson for several global brands including Sylvania Lighting, National Car Rental, Manscaped.com, Thule, and many others.

Finally, Peter is a father, a 2x Ironman triathlete, a class B licensed skydiver, and has a pretty serious Peloton addiction. When he’s not traveling around the world speaking to companies big and small, he’s based in NYC with his six-year-old daughter and 19-year-old cat, both of whom consistently refuse him access to the couch.

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• Can you do me a favor? Pls take a few minutes and rate this show or even better it would mean so much to me if you wrote a quick review, I thank you in advance.
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In May of 2020, I did an IG TV interview with Rick Green – Founder of totallyadd.com on the topic of why ADDers have challenges starting tasks and even following through. Rick shared so many practical insights and approaches that I wanted to capture and share the audio file here.

These are some of our talking points :

• Why it is important to get clear when starting
• How overwhelm can get in the way of starting a task
• BoringTasks that have a lot of emotion behind them
• how to work with your strengths to get through a task
• how self-esteem plays a big role in task initiation and follow-through
• the power of visualization can make a difference in your approach
• Perfectionism is another hurdle to overcome when it comes to task initiation and follow-through
• why it’s beneficial to get have a support system around you to hold keep you on track (towards the 20 min mark, this piece of his approach really was beneficial for me)

About Rick Green:

Rick Green, M.C., OOnt, BSc, is an award-winning comedy writer, producer, and director with over 700 episodes of radio and television to his credit. After he received a diagnosis of ADHD he began a 20-year exploration of this disorder. In 2009 he and his wife, Ava, created the ground-breaking program, ADD & Loving It?!, the TotallyADD.com website, a PBS sequel, ADD & Mastering It!, a dozen full-length programs on ADHD featuring top experts, and over 100 short videos that cover every aspect of ADHD.

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Would you do me a favor? Please take a few minutes, rate this show, or even better it would mean so much to me if you wrote a quick review, I thank you in advance. The more reviews and ratings this show gets the more you help me in spreading the message of Adult ADHD and helping others increase their knowledge on how to manage it. Having an ADHD brain does not have to be a struggle.

Is there a topic you want to learn more about? Or do you have a question about a challenge you are facing with your ADHD? Leave me a voice mail https://www.speakpipe.com/Coachcathy super easy todo, Record, Listen and push Send. I will respond in an upcoming episode.