482 | April 2023 Live Q&A with ADHD reWired!

In this episode, I talk about the vicious circle that I see when it comes to avoiding tasks that we just do not feel the urge to complete however we end up creating new ones because we love to put out fires. I recall the days where I used to proactively look for new problems and fires to put and now I realize I was doing that because I was bored and needed stimulations. However, what I didn’t realize at that time was I was not honoring my capacity to how much was already on my plate.

In this episode, I share my view and a few tips to not become the Fire Marshal of every fire.

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This week, Eric is joined by Rahti Gorfien of Creative Calling Coaching!  Rahti has coached independent creative professionals, including actors, writers, artists, filmmakers, and tech developers, who are scattered and overwhelmed.  She helps her clients break the cycle of isolation, irregular income, and irregular hours, by taking a more structured and entrepreneurial approach to their careers based on their unique strengths and neurological makeup.  In this episode, you’ll hear about Rahti’s journey with mental health, the impact of teams in her life, and how she started a yoga practice and her interest in cooking.  You’ll also hear about trauma, the 5 success-stopping emotions, being confronted by meaning-making, and wise closing words from Rahti.  Find out more about Rahti at https://creativecallingcoaching.com/ Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:02:04] Rahti talks about how she knew she had to be a performer.  [00:07:26] Rahti shares how her journey into coaching started. “Company is stronger than will, and I realized I was trying to do it alone.” [00:11:03] Eric and Rahti dive into bipolar and mental health. [00:19:13] The 5 core emotions. “Emotions are the harbingers of what we think, of what we believe.” -Rahti  [00:22:50] Rahti shares why she is now grateful for her trauma.   [00:23:57] The Manifesto of the Brave and Brokenhearted – Brene Brown  [00:27:43] Rahti gives a different perspective about being the hero in our lives.  [00:29:21] “Emotions are also wise, and they are also convincing liars.” -Eric  [00:32:29] Where does envy come from in terms of the 5 emotions?  [00:35:41] Thoughts on Enoughness [00:43:42] Eric and Rahti share their experiences with boredom.  [00:45:51] Is boredom the birthplace of creativity?  [00:49:41] Rahti and Eric recap the 5 success-stopping emotions and talk about fear.  [00:57:30] Rahti shares about her book, coming in summer of 2023!  Resources & Honorable Mentions: Book: Quick Read:    Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens Registration for the Winter season of ADHD reWired’s Coaching and Accountability Groups is happening now! Go to coachingrewired.com to learn more and get started so you can join us in January 2023! 

In this episode, I open up about my personal story about seeking support to further manage my ADHD through Trauma Therapy.  I knew that this method of therapy was going to be effective and I have always been a huge advocate of therapy but what I didn’t expect was the rapid results that I experienced.       

 

“In total, some 20–50% of children with a history of Childhood Trauma have clinical levels of ADHD (Glod and Teicher 1996; McLeer et al.1994).” 

 

Receiving support for mental health is a journey, from long waits to getting the right doctor to finding the right treatment and medication that will work and also the energy that it takes to keep at it.  But once we do get the right support, magic can happen.  I am beyond grateful to have found the right support team to move through this stage of my life.  If you relate to this post and also to this episode, please don’t give up on your healing journey, keep going! I am cheering for your success. 

In this episode, Mary Kima Dolson, a clinical social worker, joins the podcast!  As a clinical social worker, Mary has been providing psychotherapy in incarcerated populations since 2019. She is the founder of the pandemic support group Stuff We Can’t Say Out Loud and the executive director for Fund That Bitch, a non-profit group dedicated to helping women with emergency funding.  Mary also  You’ll hear Eric and Mary talk about trauma in incarcerated populations, if the word “trauma” is overused, trigger warnings, and the misunderstandings about trauma and its multifaceted layers.  Then, Mary and Eric talk about different types of trauma, unique trauma responses, the ways that people in the ADHD community can experience trauma, and how trauma responses can show up as ADHD traits.  Eric and Mary also talk about other trauma features, if there is a connection between trauma and workaholism, the importance of investing in and validating someone’s experience, and the healing and adjusting process of the incarcerated population.  Finally, you’ll hear about Mary’s experiences with trauma, how she got into her work, and a story about Henry the tortoise.  Get More from Mary:     Other Questions & Topics in this Episode:  What is trauma  What is the difference between trauma and acute stress disorder?  PTSD and CPTSD – what’s the difference?  What is the “trifuckta” of trauma  What do we do about complex trauma  What are some of the less obvious markers, behaviorally and emotionally, of trauma  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens  

This week, ADHD reWired Coaches Eric Tivers, Kristin Marts, and Brian Entler get together for the first ever round-table discussion!  You’ll hear stories about troubles and tips for how coaches manage their own transitions, how each person leverages the tools in their ADHD toolbelts, the role of novelty, thriving in a crisis, how different times of day affect each coach, and more!   Send your suggestions and ideas of what you’d like to hear from the coaches in future Coaches Round Table episodes to support@adhdrewired.com with the subject line, “Round Table”  You can hear more from Brian, Kristin, and other past guests in all of our recordings of our monthly Live Q&As!  Find show notes to this episode and all past episodes adhdrewired.com/podcast!   More notes on this amazing episode coming soon!  In the meantime, checkout these resources mentioned on today’s show!  Podcast :: ADHD reWired Episode #342 – Transitions, Balancing Work, and Relations – with Adison Smith Podcast :: ADHD reWired Episode #429 – Growth Cycles with Brian Entler Podcast :: ADHD reWired Episode #514 – Introducing: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts Book :: The One Thing by Gary W. Kellar and Jay Papasan ADHD reWired Coaching :: About Coach Kristin Marts at https://www.adhdrewired.com/coach-kristin-marts   ADHD reWired Coaching :: About Brian Entler at https://www.adhdrewired.com/coach-brian-entler Join our award-winning Coaching & Accountability Groups at coachingrewired.com  If you love the show and want to support our work, consider becoming a Patron at adhdrewired.com/Patreon 

There are the 6 perspectives of late in life diagnosis of ADHD for professionals/entrepreneurs ⠀⁠⠀

My ADHD is:⁠⠀

1. holding me back from living my life Victim ⁠⠀

2. best under stress, I don’t want to change Resist⁠⠀

⁠3. it is what it is! I am doing the best I can Rationalize ⁠⠀

4. putting my needs first for once and take care of me! Self – Compassion ⁠⠀⠀

5. finding out how I can make the most of my brain Opportunity⁠⠀

6. I am the creator of my own destiny, I choose to take charge of my brain Creator⁠⠀

I am sure you can relate to each of these lenses/perspectives but … ⁠⠀

which one has the most energy for you and is leading your emotions/behavior? ⁠⠀⠀

Well, there is a way to measure this and once I learned about my actual perspective and how it was impacting me it was a game-changer on how I manage my ADHD. ⁠⠀

You’ve taken personality tests… but now it’s time for an attitudinal assessment. ⁠⠀You’re probably familiar with personality tests like Myers Briggs, DiSC, and Enneagram. ⁠⠀

⁠These valuable tools can help you understand your strengths, embrace your weaknesses, and discover how you can work to your full potential. In that way, they typically support a “work with what you have” approach to adapting your behavior and pursuing personal excellence. ⁠⠀⠀

I have been using an effective tool to truly measure how an individual currently perceives and approaches work and life (it shows which number is their primary perspective) then we start the work to move to the next level. Just one level of shit can make a huge change in their life.

As part of my coaching process, I use an assessment that has been a critical part of creating Transformation for my clients who are able to move past their diagnosis and harness the assets of their ADHD brain. ⁠⠀

If you want to know more about the Energy Leadership Index Assessment go to readysetchoose.com or book a call with me to learn more. ⁠⠀