86 – Don’t Dis-My-Ability: A Discussion On Neurodiversity | Guest Shawn Smith

Join the ADHD reWired Team every second Tuesday of the month for our monthly Live Q&A!   In this episode, you’ll hear how the members on the ADHD reWired team manage and engage with social media.  You’ll also hear about some tools and systems to create a library of responses, and help a listener hone in on what they are passionate about.  Then, the ADHD reWired team shares tips on pausing before reacting, what the empathy gap is, what happens between pausing and stimulus, and the value of mindfulness meditation.  Some of the Questions & Topics in this Episode: How do you manage social media and stay engaged?  I’m trying to develop a library of scripts for responding to common things because I struggle with articulating myself, leading to procrastination.  What tools can I use to create scripts? What advice would you give somebody who’s trying to figure out what to do with their life?  “Between stimulus and response, there is a space.”  Is that really true for persons with ADHD? The emotional reaction happens so fast and full, and then it seems there is no recovery. How do we create a space that might not be there?  How do you get over the Wall of Awful about the Wall of Awful?  I have spent so much time on productivity apps.  I heard one of you uses Notion, do you have any suggestions on how you use it?  Resources & Honorable Mentions: Tool: Tool: Article:  Article: Article: Article: Book:  by Rosalie Maggio  Ebook: Video: – HowToADHD and Brendan Mahan (Wall of Awful) Video: – HowToADHD and Brendan Mahan (Wall of Awful) Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens  

Returning to the podcast is Kat Hoyer, a recovering HR Specialist who hosts our Career Accelerator Sessions (or CAASH+) in ADHD reWired’s Adult Study Hall Community. Get to know Kat even more in this episode, amd invite you to join us in welcoming Kat Hoyer as ADHD reWired’s newest coach to the coaching team! You’ll hear even more about Kat’s story about how she pivoted from her dream job in human resources to becoming a life and career coach, then the steps leading up to her officially joining the ADHD reWired Coaching Team.  In this Episode: So, who is Kat Hoyer? How did Kat make the transition from HR to Career Coaching to Life-Coaching?  Is Kat still involved with the HR Community? Is the perception of ADHD and Neurodiversity really shifting in the workplace? What compelled Kat to make the change to join the ADHD reWired Coaching Team? What is Kat most excited about when the spring-season of coaching groups arrives?  What values does Kat bring to coaching? What does Kat feel will be her greatest opportunities for growth?  This year, I have a word – it is “enough”. I am really working on understanding that sometimes, it’s okay to be where you are and not be pushing myself… and sometimes “enough” is where I need to live. Kat Hoyer

Marina Piscolish joins Eric on the podcast this week to talk about leveraging strengths and owning the challenges.  Marina is the president and founder of Mapping Change LLC, a small consulting business born of her passion for harnessing the transformative power of conflict to create positive changes for individuals, teams, and organizations. Being born in rural Pennsylvania as a coal-miner’s daughter and a grandchild of immigrants  provided helpful preparation for her work, especially in Hawaii and the broader pacific.  As she continues developing ways of working with culture, identities, sense-of-place, history, and trauma, her early struggle with her own undiagnosed ADHD was a defining influence on her career and life. Now, Marina focuses on making creative accommodations for her ‘limitations’ and leverages  her neurodivergence as an asset for her business, her clients, and the people close to her.   Learn more about Marina:  Website: Mappingchange.com Email:   Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:03:16] Marina shares her story about how she found ADHD reWired, her experience in the coaching groups, and her life growing up in a small town with a large family, all with similar challenges.  [00:05:36] “Emotional pain is the distance between […] your expectations [and] reality.”  [00:07:59] Marina talks about the build up of shame and being unwilling to share or get help.  [00:09:22] A relatable moment of overwhelm and avoiding the ‘pain of success.’  [00:11:29] What’s the difference between acceptance and embracing ADHD? [00:14:39] “That may be true, and I’m afraid that may be true, but what do I do about where I am?”  [00:22:15] Eric and Marina have a discussion about “administrivia.”  [00:23:19] Marina shares how she became curious about her ADHD and exploring how neurodivergence is the cause of her success.  [00:26:01] Joy through acceptance and seeking support and assistance.  [00:26:26] Eric asks Marina about what she communicated when going through the process of hiring an assistant.  [00:30:59] Maria gives an insight that was shared with her. [00:41:15] A discussion about hiring and trading services in the midst of the pandemic.  [00:48:04] What are a couple of ideas/tips/strategies Marina has for folks with ADHD who have a tendency to be conflict-avoidant?  [00:52:46] Marina leaves us with her final thoughts… Resources & Honorable Mentions: Go to coachingrewired.com to learn more about ADHD reWired’s Coaching & Accountability Groups!  Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens

In this special episode my guest @ADHDCoach_ Talks about his journey with ADHD, he was an Elite Athlete for many years and now coaches elite athletes of the future. He taps into his creative side with modeling and acting.  
In this episode, he talks about his challenges, how he has overcome them by trusting his intuition, towards the end of the talk he shares his message to all of us on how to lean into our ADHD brain, speak up for yourself and don’t let anyone limit you. 
You can follow him on Instagram @adhdcoach_

Coach Cathy on Instagram @proudlyadhd_coachcathy
readysetchoose.com 

In this episode, Emerson Jordan-Wood joins Eric–in person at ADHD reWired HQ–on the podcast!  Emerson is a 27-year-old queer, non-binary, trans human. They are originally from Illinois, but have lived brief stints in Iowa, Texas, and most recently Minnesota! They studied civil engineering at The University of Iowa currently work in non-profit construction. Emerson was diagnosed with ADHD in 2021, and self-diagnosed with autism in 2022! They’re also an active Alumni member of ADHD reWired’s coaching and accountability groups! In this episode, you’ll hear experiences, struggles, and discussions about: “Transitions are hard” and transitioning gender identities  The overlap of ADHD, different means of transitionings, and barriers to access Hoops, hurdles, and executive function nightmares Experiencing gender dysphoria and body disconnect Navigating the medical system and knowing your options “This feels like me.”  “Your transition is your transition and it doesn’t have to be based on anybody else’s.” Masking gender, masking as a neurotypical person, then unmaking gender identity Acceptance, freedom, and fully being your authentic self in the world  “I was doing what I thought I ‘should’ be doing.”  Different perceptions of gender, how people respond and interact with those perceptions, and fitting in Experiencing gender privilege and gender discrimination in the workplace Understanding pros, cons, patterns, and social cues between the gender roles  Being misgendered, coming to terms with your identity and doing the work towards acceptance Navigating and learning how to process irritability, anger, frustration, and general emotional dysregulation Struggling with task initiation, living in a constant state of flight, and not “panicking” through life From TikTok to the doctor  Feelings of being unprepared, social expectations, and navigating new environments Social cues, dynamics in conversations, and autism The helpfulness of labels and language to describe different struggles to take action and better communicate 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups!  

This week, Eric is joined by Shane Thrapp, a certified ADHD, life, relationship and career coach! Through his business, Creating Order from Chaos, Shane has helped hundreds of people find their paths through the chaos of life with ADHD and find their order and purpose.  With both an ADHD and autism diagnosis, he is the operations director for The Non-Profit Men’s ADHD Support Group, a board member for the Inattentive ADHD Coalition, and a public speaker who works to be a voice and advocate for adult ADHD awareness.   Find Shane on Instagram @creatingorderfromchaoscoaching Other Questions/Topics Answered in this Episode: [00:02:49] Shane shares his life starting in northeast Texas living growing up on a farm.  [00:05:30] Shane’s journey of getting an ADHD and autism diagnosis [00:11:48] What was Shane’s process to figure out what the challenges were, and how did he identify his areas of chaos?  [00:18:39] From project management to turning life into a project [00:19:45] “I just knew I was different. That’s the one steady factor that’s always been a part of my life.” -Shane  [00:21:18] Eric asks Shane about masking and showing up.  [00:23:04] “My father was Chaos.”  [00:25:59] Shane tells his story navigating through school.  [00:27:43] “Other worlds were more important than my world,” and a discussion about coping and numbing.  [00:31:00] Shane opens up about his relationship. [00:37:14] How did learning about ADHD change the way Shane looks at his past? Shane also shares about his passion for learning about ADHD.  [00:40:22] “I did the wrong thing… As long as I wasn’t being my father… I was fine.” [00:48:08] What sparked Shane’s interest in working with and leading an ADHD support group? And a closing inspirational story.   Resources & Honorable Mentions: Inattentive ADHD Coalition at iadhd.org   Men’s ADHD Support Group (Facebook): Website:   Check out the Other Podcasts on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network: with Brendan Mahan with Will Curb with MJ Siemens